When I first decided to take up blogging in high school (remember the good old Xanga days?), I usually never hesitated to write out my thoughts, feelings, or opinions. I spoke freely to the world as if they were a part of my life and knew almost everything about me. In a sense, they did, because I went to school with them. There was little consequence then because I would soon move away for college, and other high schoolers were blogging about similar topics.

Photo credit: Lindsey O’Nele

When I decided to take up blogging seriously, again, I was thinking more about what kind of content I wanted, how I wanted to brand myself as a blogger, and how I wanted my initial design of my blog to reflect me. In the back of my mind, I knew I needed to eventually consider how transparent I wanted to be with my followers, but I wasn’t ready to address it just yet. With my career being in law (for now), the sad and unfortunate truth is that many will judge you and hold you to a higher standard. Topics that you tackle must be done so tastefully and professionally. So, my captions and the one other blog post I have so far, while genuinely authentic, allow you to only scratch the surface of who I am and what my thoughts are on certain things.

Why is this such a big thing to consider? It seems whether there’s a popular travel, lifestyle, wedding, photographer, or fashion blogger, they all allow you into intimate aspects of their lives. I’m just not comfortable with that yet. I wholeheartedly believe that when you begin a public blogging journey, you bring in all those around you—friends and family. So how you choose certain topics for your blogs and present written or photo content can bring judgment on you and loved ones. (It’s much easier—for me at least—to ignore judgment from strangers.)  Another thing is that it’s also not just judgment I’m afraid of but I just naturally tend to shy away from all things public eye. I have never liked being at the center of attention, but deciding to pursue this passion places me in such a situation. Perhaps this will be one of the biggest obstacles for me to overcome as a blogger, and I’ll have to figure out how to let my readers in another way… but for now, I’m still navigating. And that’s okay with me.


18 comments on “Transparency as a Blogger”

  1. I have a full-time job (in addition to my blog) too- so I totally understand that you have to hold-back some. As much as I want to spill EVERYTHING sometimes, I have to be super-careful! I try and be “me” while still being respectful of my career 🙂 It’s a delicate balance!

    • It is! Even when it comes to things going on in your family… there are some important and critical topics to address that other readers can relate to, but you want to be respectful at the same time and get their approval before taking on certain topics. Thanks for the genuine comment!


    • You’re right. At some point, I’ll just have to suck it up or just make a decision to not discuss certain things. Still working it out, though, I guess 😛


  2. What a great post. I have the same fears. Though I personally love when bloggers do not hold back. I am not there yet either, but you are a beautiful writer and I think you can totally get there soon

    • I do, too! I have such incredible respect for bloggers who don’t hold back. I hope I’m able to get there someday. I’m trying to push myself, but I guess I (or we) all just have to go our own pace! Keeps us authentic. Glad to know I’m not feeling alone on this, though!


    • Thanks for the encouragement! You’re right, though. If authenticity means speaking about what I feel comfortable about at first, then that’s the way to go.


    • You have so much more than me to protect with a blog out there! Keep it up, girl! I have so much respect for you.


  3. I just started blogging at the beginning of the year and it’s definitely out of my comfort zone. I can be more shy and not share a lot because of being judged and criticized over my appearance. So the thought of putting myself out there scares me. However I am loving it. I discovered my love for fashion later in my life, so I love having this creative outlet to share my passion for fashion.

  4. I remember being really scared about putting myself out there when I started blogging, being vulnerable was my BIGGEST fear. But then I started and met amazing women in my city and around the country who support this fun hobby and I was hooked. Do what you want and enjoy it, forget about the rest.
    xx, Nicole

    • Thanks for the advice and the encouragement! I hope to take my blog in a direction in which I can challenge readers with things some of us may be afraid to talk about– i.e. women in the workforce and women who bully each other (my personal experience can implicate past employers and mutual colleagues of ours), how to stand up for equal rights (or other beliefs we hold close) within social and work circles even if it may jeopardize our jobs, etc. The opinions and critiques I hold out can effect not only my small networking circle in the law community of San Diego, but it also affects my family.

      It’s a tough thing I want to do with my blog, and there’s lots of balancing I need to reflect on. We’ll see where I take this, though!


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